This is a popular question from women, and a popular search term on Google. I typed this exact phrase into Google and came up with several articles, blogs, and forums. We women seem to have a strong interest in learning about the opposite sex – What turns guys on? What turns them off? How do we get men to commit? The list goes on and on.
It’s only natural that when it comes to being in a long distance relationship, women want to know what men think. Given that I’m not a man, I contacted the man in my life and asked him for his thoughts. Here’s what he had to say:
Do guys believe in long distance relationship?
In general, I think they do, but they don't always want to be fully committed while they’re away, unfortunately. I've had some friends that had girlfriends while they were away, and cheated on them. But once they were back by their partner, they were faithful. Or another example is that guys will sometimes keep the other relationship on hold, and are only with the girl when they see them and in the meantime they are hanging out with other girls.
How does a girl know if a guy is committed or just playing games?
You can read my other post to get an answer to this question but if a man talks about having a future with you and tells you that he is committed then there is a good chance that he takes the relationship seriously. If he only looks for you when he’s in town and you don’t hear from him very often, then he’s probably playing games. A guy who looks for you often, goes out of his way to visit you, and makes plans for the future with you is probably serious.
As a man, what's the hardest thing about being in a long distance relationship?
Not being there physically to hold you and kiss you. Also, not being able to share great moments with you, for example when the moon is shining and I want to see it with you. Or when I want to go to the movies with you, but I can't (because there is no theater here on the island, hahaha, let's pretend there was one) because you're not here with me. For some guys I guess it is temptation. But if you really love someone, you always stay away from temptation, at all costs.
As a man, what convinced you to be in a long distance relationship?
Is not a question of being a man or a woman, it’s about the person you're with. If you really love the person than being apart from them temporarily is better than losing them for good. That's what convinced me to be in a long distance relationship. Also, that I know we have a future together and that this is not forever. If you don’t see a future with the person then it is hard to survive a long distance relationship.
Do guys have a harder time dealing with the distance than women do?
I'm not sure how to answer this question. I guess it depends on the personal character of the guy and the girl. Maybe for women it is more difficult, since they are sometimes more sensitive than men. But some men can be sensitive as well.
There we have it – a guy’s perspective on long distance relationships. Granted it’s only one guy’s perspective, but I have to say he’s a pretty smart and amazing guy so I hope his advice will help.
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